sanctuary of mariage by oladokun sulaiman

Sanctuary of marriage

By definition marriage is a socially, sometimes religiously, and often legally recognized union between or among partners forming a family, legitimizing sexual relations between the partners and procreation. Marriage is an important part of our life, the success of man and woman are believe to be complete a good marriage, that why it has always been say that “behind every successful woman d a woman is a good man or woman”- this is just too true statement , because, in the struggle of life no matter what we make and how much successful we are, if we are let with marriage and its purpose , we fill empty, and of course as if we have not achieved anything, this equally meaning that marriage cover half of lifetime human achievement . Marriage offers humanity a chance to cover eye sight and protects private ports and of course satifies our sexual passion which is naturally part of us.


Marriage is the issue of an owner of land handed over the seeds of crops and instruments of cultivation to a servant and gave him also the land for cultivation. The servant did not cultivate it, kept the instruments useless and destroyed the seeds. It is clear that he becomes then an object of wrath of the master. Similarly God created man and women he created life germ for production of children in the back of a man and the breast of a woman. The uterus is the fertile field and the male organ and the female organ are the instruments of cultivation. He also created sexual passion in the male and female for creating child by using the instruments of their organs. These prove the objects of God. He who does not marry destroys the seeds and keeps the instrument useless and idle and goes against the object of God. For this reason, to kill the child or to bury it odious or in a straight forward sence abortions is sinful- under no circumstance one the male sperm and the female has undergo fertilization we pust not purge it - so it is our responsibility toprevent the mixing if we are not ready to keep a child - once it is ix , it has become life.




What baffle me in today’s world is that, if two people, can’t not stay together, as the record of divorce continue to rise at the nooks and corner of the planet- can we live together as nation? (Since , it has even become a thing of habit for human that we must loose thing before we know their value, we should know thtat there is many worth of being marries in the first place) — This is one reason why the issue of world unity and people loving one another should take root from the issue of marriage. Another reality is that, God has a purpose why he did not create us just male or female. HE made this, so that we can enjoy life, so that we can experience love and the prospect of unity, and the power of understanding and patience and honesty that back a good marriage. Now lets us look at advantages and disadvantages of marriage alive have been prohibited.


Advantages of marriage


(1) To have children. This is the root for which marriage is contracted. The object is to preserve dynasty and the earth not existing without men. Dynasty increase in human kind and continuity of the planet remain one reason for having children, the issue of death make this subtle and not within easy comprehension of man. There will always be rhetoric that when the object of God is to preserve dynasty, then why He prescribed it destruction by death. Life and death though opposed to each other are within the will of God as love and hatred though opposed to each other are within God's will. If you ask this question, then I say , why don’t tell me what huan will be doing if there is no death – little are evils of killing and oppression we are seeing today, we will have seen the worst .Beside this, procreation is about leaving legacy, if we have good kids it is like the layers of light of a dead man. Through good kids dead person can still get rewards from GOD because HE is so merciful- we all know how multilayer marketing works don’t we-


(2) To control sexual passion, Second benefit of marriage is to be safe from the devil, to satisfy lust and to save private parts. Marriage is a means of controlling passion. It is means for us to have the best of the pleasure which lies in sexual intercourse. There is no benefit in a thing of which there is no pleasure. God created pleasure of the world with this object that if the people have pleasure we will be eager to have lasting pleasure. The marriage is a means of saving oneself from the oppression of sexual passion.


(3) To find peace of mind, Marriage brings peace in mind and there grows love between the couple. This peace of mind is necessary for divine service. A wise person know will spend his time to speak secretly with his lord at one time, to takes accounts of his actions at another time and he remains busy with his food and drink at another time. Like wise earning the livelihood of the life and taking lawful things is sign that make us wise towards peace of mind. There is effort in every action and there is langour in every effort. In life we will always be preoccupied with earthly matter-scent, woman and prayer however the comfort is necessary for peace of mind. Through increase in divine service, Leisure is found, a wife lessens the duties of a man regarding cooking of food, spreading of bed, cleansing of utensils and other duties of livelihood. A chaste and religious wife helps here husband in this manner.


(4) to get rewards of duties to family- There are some duties arising out of marriage which are considered as divine service-to maintain family, to have patience at the character and conduct of the wife, to bear the hardships of the family members, to try to do good to them, to show them the path of religion, to earn for them lawful things and to educate the children. Infact it has been said that one day of a just ruler is better than divine service for seventy years.' To rule a family is no fewer tasks than a king. Every one of us is ruler, especially, when we family and every one of us will be asked about our subjects.



Embedded in the sanctuary of marriage are purpose of marriage which include security (derived from the solemn commitment to longevity in the relationship), companionship, procreation, child education and development, economic collaboration, and social stability. It affects assignment of rights to property and inheritance, aids in providing identity (particularly to children), This is a reason why it is imperative to carry out our responsibility in marriage.


Couple with all these goods of marriage is reality of being good and producing good product of marriage – I mean good kids, also patience is very important part of marriage. Obligation of married person includes lawful earnings to feed lawful food to eat and educate the family at all cost. We must uphold our duty towards family members, and never allow situation that will make us lose patience at their character and conduct and no to forbear the hardship inflicted that comes with marriage – we must know that nothing comes easy in this life .It is a big for sin of a man not to fulfill his duties of maintenance for which he is responsible and fleeing of a man from his family is like that of a slave from his master. He who neglects to do his duty of maintenance is like a fleeing man even though he remains present. We must not keep away the family members and children from the remembrance of God, we must encourage them not to hoard up wealth and search for objects of pride and boast. Whatever thing diverts attention from God is a cause of misfortune.


It is important for married people not to deprive themselves sexual passion when they need it. Married people should preserve chastity and keep secret of the words of their partners and partners should not to demand unnecessary things and partners must and to refrain from unlawful wealth or earnings. Extravagant spending should be avoided and properties should be but protect.Married people should engage themselves in good works in the absence of their husband and make enjoyment in the presence of their partners and woman should all household affairs to her utmost capacity.


When you get married you are going to spend such as life where you shall have to live long, the person you have to sleep with probably for ever you must ready to love, to make avenue for extraordinary acquaintance you have to make for him such a world which will be heaven for you, prepare for him or her such a bed which will be a pillar for you. Be such a slave for him that he might become your slave. Don't go willingly to him, lest you become to him an object of hatred. Don't remain far from him, lest he may forget you. When he remains near you, be near him. When he stays distant from you, save your nose, ears and eyes, let him or her not get from you except sweet smile. Let him not hear from you except sweet words. Let him or her not see in you except beauty.



Weighing the obligation with the advantages of marriage ,to marry is better or not depends on the personal character of man. These benefits and harms are by way of advice and they show path. Marriage is good for one who is not diverted from the remembrance of God and from the path of honesty and virtue. In the contrary case, marriage is bad for him, If there is necessity of controlling sexual passion, marriage is necessary.



Now coming back to question of passion -Human has been created weak; this is pretty much manifested in the complicated phenomena of sexual passion, and human cannot be patient regarding women or men. Y don’t you register your feelings about any or more of the following the following:


When the male organ of a man stands erect, does man intellect go away, like woman and what do we do or suppose to in such circumstance?
Why night specially for sharing of passion? When is most desirable to you?
Are there temptation related to my ears, my heart and myself?
Do we need to protect mind and our private parts?
Sexual intercourse a necessary for as food in necessary
Are we jealous when people look or mess with our wife?
Do we fulfill our necessity or purpose to our partner?
What do you think about going to a woman or an in absence of her husband or wife? Does devil runs through your veins like the circulation of blood?
Can we marry anybody instead of wasting our passion and bodily fluid?
Why do men look for more women is because their sexual passions ore strong that one women cannot satisfy?
What do u think about choosing your partner?
What do u think about marriage?

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